Four Reflections After Taking Time Away From Writing

Jamila Medley
5 min readSep 24, 2022
Photo by Cristofer Maximilian on Unsplash

Two months ago I stopped writing to focus on my paid work. I was excited to see my earnings finally increase to something that felt fair to me. I wanted to commit to the process that was guiding me towards financial stability and independence for the first time in nearly two decades.

At the time, I understood that to mean that writing as a practice would have to take a back seat, at least for a little while. Well, yesterday I acknowledged that this leg of my journey is at an end. It’s time to return to more of me, which includes writing.

The last two months have been AMAZING though. I have done things that seemed way too out of the box for me, met new people, and missed some things about the new ways of being in relationship to myself I had been cultivating since leaving my full-time job last year. Now ready to return to writing, I have these gleanings to share.

Girl trips in your 40s are epic! A friend of mine since high school invited me and others to a tropical island to celebrate her birthday. The decision to go wasn’t easy for me to make. I was going to take thousands of dollars of my earnings — between accommodations, airfare, and fun — to spend on myself over the course of 3 nights and 4 days.

For a while it felt irresponsible, selfish, and overly indulgent. After all, I…

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Jamila Medley

I write to reflect on & learn how to live more authentically, slowly, & intentionally in a culture that dares you to go against the grain.